DR. JOHN & JOE MAMA ANSWER WHY MEN CHEAT IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS
Women emailed us on wanting to know why most men cheat. You’ve said you are beautiful, smart, nice, and a super freaky fox, but somehow your partner wasn’t happy enough and he tippy-toed on you. Well, his loss darling! Nonetheless, we decided to ask Joe Mama and Dr. John, “Why do all men cheat?” While all along knowing that the two distinctive views would hopefully answer your question.
DR. JOHN: Why do all men cheat? By no means am I one to defend all men because we know that would be impossible (even for the late Johnny Cochran). I will defend some, but all men do NOT cheat. The problem is men don’t come pre-packaged/labeled as cheater and non-cheater, which makes it difficult to spot the swine. That being said, why do some men cheat? The alpha male or meathead defense would offer something along the lines of, “Because I can” (or at the least he can get away with it) or “Because I’m not getting something from my girlfriend/fiancé/wife.” Both responses should be expected from someone who is selfish enough to hurt the one they love or lack the courage/fortitude to do the right thing, or end a go-nowhere relationship and find someone they do love enough not to cheat on. In reality, the problem lies with the one who cheats (which goes both ways for the record) and not the one being cheated on. I’d love to shed light on why some men cheat with a magic elixir-like answer, but that’s not possible. To put it simply, yet vaguely, it has to do with any number of personal insecurities that have to be considered on a case by case basis.
JOE MAMA: Men cheat because women drive them to cheat. Here are a few quick examples why:
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You got fat
- You lay there like a dead fish when you’re having sex
- You stopped wearing makeup
- The friend you just brought over looks hotter than you
- You used to dress sexy, now you dress in Mom jeans
- You think shaving your legs and crotch once a month is enough
- You chastise us for watching porn instead of watching it with us
Most women get too comfortable in the relationship and let themselves go. We, as men, remember that one thing that attracted us to you and when you let it go, we begin to look for that again. Bottom line is if women aren’t keeping their part in the relationship to keep things interesting in bed, I suggest women buy themselves a wig or two, or visit flirtcatalog.com and get themselves a role playing costume. We men crave variety. That’s why we have that rubber neck every time a beautiful woman walks by us.
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Jodie Says:
Written on November 25, 2008 at 10:49 pm
Damn, Joe Mama just tells it like it is.
Dr. quit skirting around the issue. You know all men given the right opportunity would do it.
Keep ya man interested, thats all you have to do.
Mama Juggs Says:
Written on November 25, 2008 at 10:52 pm
Well said, Joe Mama! And true. That’s why I keep myself up everyday and my husband calls me his hot mamacita everyday!
Carly Says:
Written on November 25, 2008 at 10:54 pm
That’s my boy!!, thats why i love him.
He doesn’t hold back. I bet if I was your girl, you wouldn’t cheat on me.
Rosaleey Says:
Written on November 25, 2008 at 11:28 pm
All men do not cheat. Women do it a lot more than men we are just too smart to get caught. Men leave a trail behind. We know how to do our stuff and when we do it the men behave a lot better. Every woman needs a man for every thing be it sex, love or money. If one cannot give it to you, go with three different ones that can.
Niessa Says:
Written on November 25, 2008 at 11:38 pm
Just suck every part of his body and he will never cheat!
Leah Says:
Written on November 26, 2008 at 1:08 am
Dr. John is full of it. ALL men do it not some. Joe Mama tells it like it is.
Ryan Says:
Written on November 26, 2008 at 6:57 am
Dr. John is right on point. We cheat just to cheat and it does goes both ways. Joe Mama made some valid points as well. Overall, it comes to individuality and what’s lacking in a person’s life to make him or her make those choices.
Jana Says:
Written on November 26, 2008 at 7:03 am
OH YEAH JOE MAMA BUT WE HAVE TO DEAL WITH MEN GOING BALD, BEER BELLY, NOT SHOWERING, OBNOXIOUS FRIENDS, MOMMA’S BOYS, AND “NOT” CHEAT WE HAVE TO DEAL WITH ALL THAT AND YOU SAY MEN CHEAT BECAUSE WOMEN GAINED A FEW POUNDS, YEAH RIGHT!
Christopher Says:
Written on November 26, 2008 at 7:42 am
Dr. John is accurate. Not all men cheat. If you have a good honest woman that takes good care of herself who is sweet and caring who appreciates the arts, music and has strong values, men would not cheat on them. Joe Mama is also right, they have to be spontaneous in the bedroom as well, so the man would not go anywhere else. Is very important for a woman to give the man the right attention.
that's "MS. B" to you! ;o) Says:
Written on November 26, 2008 at 8:30 am
my goodness… i wonder if “joe mama” read “dr. john’s” attempt to explain this behavior before writting his own explanation? dr. john ALREADY listed joe mama’s response as one of the many EXCUSES that some boys use to cheat… ladies, it’s POINTLESS to WASTE your time wondering why -insert name here- cheated on you. people are RESPONSIBLE for their OWN actions. it’s extremely immature to blame one’s mistakes on another. for a BOY to say “i cheated because you gained weight” or whatever EXCUSE is BS. no, ladies (or men if you are wondering why you were cheated on). HE cheated because HE DECIDED to cheat. my advice. learn to be comfortable in your own skin, accept your “flaws” and focus on positive characteristics. make sure you have a CLEAR idea of EXACTLY what characteristics you want your partner to posess. THEN you can work on finding “mr./mrs. right” FOR YOU. if you don’t shave your legs every day. then you don’t want a guy whose going to put you down for it. when/if he does tell him GOODBYE! obviously he doesn’t respect you enough to accept you for WHO YOU ARE. rather he is trying to make you into who he THINKS he wants you to be. gentlemen that works for you too… if you don’t like to spend hours at the gym and thus have a “gut” don’t waste time trying to convince some girl that you “really are concerned about staying fit” because the truth is – you’re not. BE HONEST with yourself and others. STOP choosing to ignore the obvious “warning signs” and you WILL find the love you are searching for from another person. I WISH YOU ALL THE BEST IN LOVE, LIFE & THAT WHICH YOU PURSUE.
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Carly Says:
Written on November 26, 2008 at 8:33 pm
Ms. B, Judging by what you wrote i bet you are just a big fat heffer with a female beard.
You just don’t like the truth told to you in your face.
Naomi Says:
Written on November 26, 2008 at 8:55 pm
Carly that was rude no wonder you like Joe Momma! Ms.B does sound like a nun, JOY TO THE WORLD MS.B has spoken. FashAddiX just post pictures of John we want eye candy! Nice to see him back.
Stacy Says:
Written on November 26, 2008 at 9:07 pm
I want to see what this Joe Mama character looks like he always has something to say that is funny.
Carly Says:
Written on November 26, 2008 at 9:18 pm
Get in line Stacy. fashaddix is keeping him all to herself and won’t share.
Naomi
Lol.
Lacy Says:
Written on November 26, 2008 at 10:37 pm
This makes me giggle and somewhat roll my eyes at the comments. But I have to give Dr. J some love! Joe’s blog basically is a segment of what Dr. J had to say in full, and Joe was crass about his delivery. So hail to Dr. J, what’s new, your’re a smart dude! Now as we remember Dr. J believes once a cheater always a cheater, which is a bit too conservative…but he is simply right on why they do it, and for that matter why anyone does it.
EL CUBANO Says:
Written on November 26, 2008 at 10:58 pm
I’m with Joe Mama 100% we don’t put so much thought into it, we just lose interest. If baby girl kept it tight we wouldn’t want to roam!
Amy Says:
Written on November 26, 2008 at 11:42 pm
I don’t like to leave comments somehow I jumped on the bandwagon.
What these girls really mean to say is, Joe Mama & Dr. John you are great, I love you, I need you, you are smart and I am the one, now can I suck your d**k?
It was a good posting fashaddix!
maria Says:
Written on November 27, 2008 at 12:27 am
I think is highly unfair for a man to cheat on a women just because she gained weight, dressed differently, etc. I guess we’re entitled to cheat on men when they get bald, grow a belly, doesn’t function effectively during sex, get boring.
Carly Says:
Written on November 28, 2008 at 4:50 am
Happy thanksgiving fash people!
Halloween Costumes Chick Says:
Written on February 18, 2010 at 4:04 am
I love this post! The truth is always so good to hear! It does go both ways. I think the men just get caught more and the women that do get caught have a better story when they do get caught! A cheater is a cheater no matter what you do!